Monday, August 22, 2016

Marriage Seminar for Singles and Married

Super Blessed Day!


Ang dami ko na learn ^_^

And, realize kaya pala ako binalikan ng Ex ko dati... (kahit may asawa na siya ngayon), he still gives me flowers on my birthday! And, want to get back with me.
Dahil ganon nga talaga ang treatment ko sa kanya.. I treated him with the 3 from the 4 main points mentioned about men needs... Respect, Trust, Peace and Intimacy. The 3 bolded words are important in Boyfriend-Girlfriend relationship. Intimacy is needed for married people.

Pag wala ang isa the relationship, it will have pressure.

I wasn't aware... na yun nga talaga ang needs ng men and yeah siguro dahil sa mga past experience with relationship... mawala ang trust and respect ko sa isang lalake pag mag show siya interest...
(hadlok mode lang?)
bitaw noh mao diay to... hmmm....

What is the Natural Product of Trust?
Forgiveness...

Also realize that after I broke up with him my last ex-bf of more than 6-yrs...
Wala na ako nagkaroon ng long term relationship sa isang lalake.
I remember the last one I had, (more than 3 years ago) we had it only for a month, yes 4 weeks!
We have conflict because of "Trust and Respect" (nasa Cebu siya ako Davao). Almost the same type of relationship I had with my Ex's, which is "long distance"...

And yung recent one, nag show ng interest sa akin, nag-iba din treatment ko sa kanya, nawala yung trust and respect ko sa kanya...

So the bottom line?

I haven't completely forgive...
grabe! after all these years I just finally realize now as in today, that it was ONLY FORGIVENESS of the past that happened. (long distance relationship)
yeah! wala gyud diay nako siya na forgive sa broken promises niya sa akin... grabe! parang na phobia na pala ako?
Pag makarinig na ako ng "I promise" na word noh, mawala dayon akoa trust and respect sa lalake.

That's the realization for today!
To FORGIVE AND LET GO of the past hurt!

Also learned that for Men... the speaker said for HER NEEDS:


  1. Open Communication - Tell her everything, no secrets!
  2. Protection - in spiritual and physical.
  3. Time - the currency of marriage, to make her loyal to you, always spend your precious time with her. Or buy her loyalty with time.
  4. Continuous Pursuit - never stop courting her.
yeah! I agree! kung makakita man ako ulit ng ganitong treatment sa lalake...
 (^_^) blessed na talaga ako super!

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Another messages was:

  • If it was made by God it must be good. 
  • What is bad = A man to be alone.
  • Read Genesis 2:19-20

Look for qualification: Suitable Helper.

  • If God made something we can trust.
  • Marriage is created by God and NOT by Man. Look for God's "garden"| for you.

Communication:

  • Very important in Verbal and Non-Verbal.
  • it should be exchange of ideas and brainstorming.
  • essential form in any relationship.
  • when it fails, everything fails!
  • indirect communication = don't do it, marriage is not long-term but lifetime relationship. Till Debt to us part. (^_^)

Naming Your Children: Why did God change the names of Bible Characters?

  • Jacob means cheater; dishonest.
  • Remember name is important. Because, it bares the character of the person. That's why God change the name of Jacob and other Bible characters.

We also had the activities:
For Male read this verse...

  • Ephesians 5:25-29
  • Specify: 1st column - Important Phrases; 2nd column - Explain the important phrases; 3rd column - what to do?

For Female read this verse:

  • 1 Peter 3:1-4
  • Specify: 1st column - Important Phrases; 2nd column - Explain the important phrases; 3rd column - what to do?

Sad that I can't attend tomorrow 2nd Part of the Seminar... it talks about handling conflict in marriage, financial planning, Biblical family roles of father and mother, love, romance and sex.
Wala pa man din akong boy friend and also realize na hindi pa nga ako prepare mag-asawa, since I need to face and resolve to myself the forgiveness of all the past hurt - "trust and respect" issues. And, mahirap na mag absent ulit sa work! no work, no pay baya!

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"Sex is God's gift to married people"

Thank God for keeping me pure!

Thank you sa handouts na Booklet about Christian Marriage and Family Life.
Salamat din yah for accepting my invitation! (^_^)


If you look into my eyes
will you see my love for you?
If you look at my lips
will you know it's meant for you?

Everything happens for reasons...
Every moment has its own seasons...

The right time will come,
we will be together for eternity,
The right moment will come
our bond shall be filled with God's Blessings and Security.

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